Unit 1: Conditions & Connections

Lesson 1: Who Am I/My Place in the World

  • Sticky notes
  • 1 lined paper and envelope for each student

Wellbeing For Children: Identity And Values by ClickView:

youtu.be/om3INBWfoxY

The Circles All Around Us, by Brad Montague:

youtu.be/kp7viQaaUOg

Where Are You From? by Yamile Saied Mendez:

youtu.be/gqaIE1Skn6Y

Lila and the Crow by Gabrielle Grimardby:

youtu.be/HJIIzlGkbz8

BELONGING–Award-Winning Short Film by Pierre Leong:

youtu.be/ZgT-GQvwZ9k

A Kids Book About Belonging by Kevin Carroll:

youtu.be/D61RKIvcDJk

“I Am” Poetry Slam:

youtu.be/iNaCipAaj3I

  • I can describe my family and cultural background.
  • I can identify my hobbies, talents, and strengths.
  • I know what I value, believe, and am motivated by.
  • I can name several groups to which I belong.
  • I feel like I belong in various groups.
  • I help others feel welcomed and valued.

Curriculum Connections

The purpose of this lesson is to help students reflect on who they are and where they belong. Students will dive deeper into their individual identity, consider how their identity changes over time, and how they can feel a sense of belonging.

People can feel a sense of pride and self-worth from knowing who they are. Self-image begins early in life as we begin to label ourselves based on family, culture, language, socio-economic status, religion/beliefs, hobbies/interest, and more. Kendra Cherry from Verywell Mind explains, “Identity is shaped by the experiences people have during their lives, particularly during childhood and adolescence. Kids who are raised in a supportive environment receive the care, support, and encouragement that they need in order to develop a healthy sense of self. Children raised in less supportive environments where they encounter neglect, abuse, or over-parenting, on the other hand, may struggle to forge their own strong identities.”

Identities change naturally as we grow and develop. However, when these changes occur rapidly or changes seem to threaten how we see ourselves, children can lose confidence and self-worth, sometimes leading to depression, according to Lauren DiMaria from Verywell Mind.

Identity connects us to the people around us, providing an important sense of belonging. Unfortunately, just because someone is part of the group does not mean that they feel like they belong or “fit in” there. Kendra Cherry explains that, “A sense of belonging involves more than simply being acquainted with other people. It is centered on gaining acceptance, attention, and support from members of the group as well as providing the same attention to other members.” Our desire to belong makes us want to participate in groups or teams because it provides a sense of acceptance and even purpose. “By belonging to a group, we feel as if we are a part of something bigger and more important than ourselves.”

ethnicity, nationality, language, beliefs, hobbies, personality, values, characteristics, motivations, belonging

Activity 1: (15 minutes) STICKY NOTE SORT

Pass out one sticky note to each student. Write the question “Who are you?” on the board and ask students to write just one answer to that question (their answer should not be their name but rather a word that describes who they are). Collect the sticky notes and post them on the board. As a class, organize them into similar categories and provide a label for the group (e.g., culture, ethnicity, language, hobby/talent, values, beliefs, etc.).

Watch the video “Wellbeing For Children: Identity And Values,” by ClickView. Have a conversation:

  • What makes you, you?
  • How might family, culture, peers, school, or community change who we think we are?

Activity 2: (15 minutes) WHO AM I?

Pass out the Identity and Values handout and have each individual fill out the questions that help them reflect on different aspects of their identity. Clarify any questions that students may have before students start.

  • Where do you come from?
  • What is your ethnicity?
  • What language(s) do you speak?
  • What do you believe?
  • What are your hobbies or interests?
  • How would you describe your personality?
  • What characteristics/values matter to you?
  • What do you love? List of at least 5 things.
  • What about yourself are you proud of?
  • What motivates you?

Activity 3: (20 minutes) HOW HAVE YOU CHANGED?

Our identity develops and changes over time. To illustrate this for students, the teacher can tell students a story of what they were like as a kid. Think back to early interests, family culture, or motivations. Share changes over time and what has caused that change.

Next, ask students to pair up with a partner. Ask them to share a story of how they have changed since they were little. They could share a story example or just describe what they used to enjoy and be motivated by. Then switch roles and have the other partner share. Return to your seat once you are done.

Explain to students that they will continue to change and that we can learn a lot about ourselves by looking to the past and the future. Their next assignment will be to write a letter to themselves in the future. Each letter should include the following:

  • Today’s date
  • A description of who you are today (use the previous handout)
  • A prediction of who you think you will become

As a class, determine what month and year this class will graduate from high school. Students will seal their letters in an envelope and write “Do not open until ______(month)/_____(year)” on the back. Ask students to take the letter home and store it in a safe place until they open it years later.

Have a discussion:

  • What can we learn about ourselves by looking to the past?
  • What can we learn about ourselves by looking to the future?
  • Is personal change a good or a bad thing?

Activity 4: (20 minutes) LESSONS IN LITERATURE

Read through a couple short stories and discuss the questions for each.

Read The Circles All Around Us by Brad Montague. (3:00)

  • What lesson might the author want us to learn from this book?
  • What might the circles represent?

Read Where Are You From? by Yamile Saied Mendez. (3:37)

  • What lesson might the author want us to learn from this book?
  • What was the point of view of the narrator? How does it affect the story?

Read Lila and the Crow by Gabrielle Grimardby. (6:49)

  • How might we see ourselves differently than others see us?
  • How do we sometimes label others, and is it fair?
  • What is the danger of comparing ourselves to others?

Activity 5: (15 minutes) BELONGING

Watch the video “BELONGING–Award-Winning Short Film,” by Pierre Leong. As students watch, have them pay attention to how the narrator feels (4:26). Have a discussion:

  • In summary, what happened to this young man?
  • What feelings did this man experience throughout the film?
  • Who in our world might be struggling to feel like they belong?

Read the following two quotes:

  • “A sense of belonging involves more than simply being acquainted with other people. It is centered on gaining acceptance, attention, and support from members of the group as well as providing the same attention to other members.” (Kendra Cherry)
  • “By belonging to a group, we feel as if we are a part of something bigger and more important than ourselves.” (Kendra Cherry)

Read A Kids Book About Belonging by Kevin Carroll (3:38). Have a discussion:

  • Have you ever felt like you don’t belong? Like you don’t fit in or that other people don’t get you?
  • What does it mean to belong?
  • How can we help others feel like they belong to the group?

Activity 6: (20–30 minutes) I AM POEM

Pass out the I Am Poem handout. Students will write different things that they think and feel to express parts of their identity in poetry. Encourage students to use specific and unique words. If they need help, encourage them to use an encyclopedia, but only to use words that they already know. If time allows, have some students share their poems in small groups with the whole class.

Extension: Have students turn their poems into a video using some video software (e.g., Adobe Spark or Loom). They can either record their faces or just the audio and text. Allow them to get creative, add images, transitions, background music, etc. They could even use the words to create song lyrics. Here are some examples.

  • Why does our identity matter so much?
  • How does our family and cultural background help shape us?
  • What experiences help us see what we value or are motivated by?
  • What helps someone feel like they belong?
  • What might we change in order to help everyone feel belonging?
  • Have you ever had an experience where someone helped you “fit in?”
  • Reflect on who you are and how you became you.
  • Make a list of things that you love about yourself.
  • Make a list of things you value in others.
  • Participate in groups.
  • Be a friend and invite people to join.
  • Read more books about self-awareness including those from this list.
  • Have students identify a part of themselves that they love. These attributes could be visual or beneath the surface. Find an image to capture the main idea (e.g., take a picture of the child’s eyes) and have students write about why they love that part of themselves. See examples here.
  • Make an identity collage. Have students collect images from magazines or online that help represent different parts of who they are. They can include ethnicity, nationality, language, beliefs, hobbies, personality, values, characteristics, motivations, and the group to which they belong. Post them for the class to see.
  • Apply (depth): I Am poem
  • Transfer (breadth): Discussion from books about real-life situations.

Curriculum Connections - Lesson 1: Who Am I/My Place in the World